Today is my 14th wedding anniversary! I can’t believe that we have survived this long, and I bet a few people from when we first got together can’t either as they bet we wouldn’t last a month!
We’ve been together 17 years, married for 14 and have 5 beautiful and amazing children.
Yet when I look back at my wedding day, I have wedding regrets. If I was to do it all again I would do it differently!
We had been engaged for 3 years, Ryan was 1 and I was pregnant with Becky when we had some very sad news. My beloved Great Uncle had passed away aged 82. I was heartbroken but to my shock, he had left me some money in his will. We decided to use this unexpected inheritance to finally get married. Yet, we wanted to spend as little as possible.
Regret Number One
My main regret is that we didn’t elope to Gretna Green in Scotland. I think it would have been more romantic, less hassle and a lot more enjoyable with just a few of the most important people in our lives.
Instead, we decided to have a registry wedding and reception and invite family and friends. Unfortunately, we catered for more people than actually turned up, we paid for a minibus to carry people to the wedding reception which wasn’t needed as people didn’t turn up. It was my 18th birthday all over again and one of the main reasons I didn’t want a party for my 40th birthday.
Most of our families did turn up, as well as a few friends. A few other friends did send their apologies as they were away on holiday.
Despite all this, we did have a lovely evening spent with people we cared about.
Regret Number Two
Then we come to my other wedding regret and this one is a HUGE regret!
I regret that in an effort to save money, I decided not to hire a wedding photographer.
This was a mistake, something that I realised even more after watching the photographer at my cousin’s wedding last week.
More than anything when it comes to a wedding, you need a photographer! You need something to help capture the memories of your special day.
No matter how many guests take photos or how talented they are, they are not professional photographers.
We have a few treasured photos which were taken by our families. I am truly grateful for these photos and I treasure them as they are the only reminders I have of my special day.
But I really regret and wish I had professional photos taken. If I were to do it all again, a wedding photographer would be in my top 5 list of essentials to book!
Maybe for our 15th Wedding Anniversary, we can renew our vows in Gretna Green?
What about you? Do you have any wedding regrets?