Yesterday I took Anon for a CAMHS check-up. Anon is one of my children who has asked that I don’t reveal which one, whenever I discuss their Anxiety and Depression.
At the end of last year, Anon’s anxiety was so severe that they took tablets in an attempt to commit suicide which I wrote about on my post Suicidal Thoughts in Children with Anxiety and Depression.
After Anon’s attempt and visit to the hospital, we saw their old CAMHS counsellor who is organising therapy to help Anon deal with their anxiety and depression. Anon is still on the waiting list to be seen but the counsellor is hopeful that it won’t be much longer before Anon is seen and a lot closer from home.
At the meeting, we discussed a few of Anon’s anxieties and concerns, one of which was this blog and this is when we agreed that I wouldn’t name the child if I wrote about the issues Anon was dealing with. That way my blog could still be an outlet for me to talk about their issues and the impact it has on me and my family, whilst protecting Anon’s identity so that they don’t have to worry about anyone from school identifying them and ridiculing them. It seemed a fair compromise and is why I am now using the name Anon and the pronoun them to protect their identity whenever I talk about their anxieties or depression.
We also discussed Anon’s refusal to go to school. I have a meeting tomorrow with Anon’s school with the child protection officer, Anon’s head of year, our coordinator from Gyda’n Gilydd (team around the family) who is our advocate and the welfare officer. Our aim is to get Anon back at school whilst ensuring they feel safe. The CAMHS counsellor suggests it would be helpful if Anon attended the meeting and also spoke to our Gyda’n Gilydd coordinator beforehand and made her aware of his concerns and anxieties.
You can read about how the meeting went on my update of Getting Back to School. Needless to say, I’m impressed with the understanding and support from the school.
As for Anon’s safety play. It was agreed to keep it running until their therapy starts, this means that Anon cannot be left alone, which Anon isn’t happy about as they would like to go to visit their friend who lives 10 miles away. It also means that have to come with us whenever we go anywhere.
Anon has gone from not sleeping very much to sleeping too much, so now our new challenge is not to let Anon stay in bed all morning, which is difficult when they are refusing to move!
After the meeting, we popped to visit my sister-in-law who is in hospital. She hadn’t seen Anon since they were a toddler so was quite surprised at how grown up Anon is now. She also didn’t realise I had five children, thinking I only had three! Although in fairness we lost touch when she moved away and the last time I saw her was at my father-in-law’s funeral when I was pregnant with Rhian! We tried to do a video chat to hubby, but he couldn’t hear her and she got frustrated and hung up on him!
Sadly, a week later, this sister-in-law passed away so I’m glad I was able to visit her and reintroduce her to two of my children.